College is a new step in every student’s life, life in college isn’t as easy as it seems. Also, choosing the right roommate who their going to share a room with might be a problem, because of all the differences in both of their lifestyles and personalities. Moreover, trying to live and fit with another person in one room might be hard on some students because of the changes in the habits, attitudes and the ways of living. I believe that in order to get along well with college roommates students should meet first to discuss various issues, and they should work on improving their communication skills.
Roommates ought to think of meeting outside the college dwelling because it is important; especially, to discuss some serious issues there going to go through when living together. Firstly, they should make explicit rules for the room so that they could get along better and have something to get back to when they face difficult conflicts, but in order to put these rules they have to be aware of the local laws of the area they live in, because certain contracts may be covered [video1]. Secondly, talk about what’s important in their relationship and what each roommate likes and dislikes; For instance, their eating and studying habits, weather visitors are allowed or not and sharing each other’s items[video1]. Furthermore, they should discuss how they could make their relationship get to the stage where they can count on the other roommate as a family, so that all the bounds in between them are broken and they can easily confide and rely on each other. One more thing they should take in consideration is the room lease, how they’re going to pay it and what they’re going to do if one of them can’t pay it. If they tend to share the bills in between they should have trust and honesty within them.
Communication skills must be improved by the roommates to have a better life in college when living with another student. One good way to start with is trying to develop their conversation to a level where both of them feel comfortable with. For example, having open ended questions and avoiding closed questions, so that the other person feels easy talking with his roommate [video2]. Secondly, they should have active listening so that at the end of the conversation they could summarize what the other person said so he knows you were listening to him, understood what he was saying and can talk back to him whenever he feels like it without feeling shy or embarrassed[video2]. Also, when the other persons talking they shouldn’t make assumptions of what he’s saying and jump to the conclusion because that shows that you’re not interested and he might feel like you don’t appreciate what he’s saying and not consider his thoughts and believes. At last, when your roommate needs the other roommate’s help they shouldn’t give them their back but should stop what they’re doing, face them and make them feel like you want to help them [video2]. In addition, always try to avoid antagonistic sentences when answering back your roommate, that would make you both have less conflicts in between and more respect.
In summary, roommates ought to develop their relationship to the best, so that they wouldn’t face a lot of difficulties in the future when living together. Developing their relationship might mean meeting outside the dwelling to discuss various issues. Also, improving their communication skills is very important. I think that it’s nice to have a roommate and someone to share your college life with, but they should be understandable and respectful.
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